Self Assessment Tool

When a relationship breaks down there will usually be areas of conflict.

The level of upset will fluctuate and change in intensity according to the quality of communication and behaviour. At Peaceful Solutions we have developed a range of services tailoring what we do to match your circumstances.

The five zones below will help you identify the service that will give you the most benefit

Click on the text that most represents your situation

The situation is hostile but not all-out war
You have already split up
You feel stuck and frustrated
Things are uncertain and this is stressing you out
You are angry with your (ex) partner
Or your (ex) partner is angry with you
Your children are caught up in the dispute
You disagree about a number of issues
You cannot agree arrangements for the children or finances
You have a legal advisor but no progress is being made
You would like to make progress and move on with your life
You may or may not be still living in the same home
You sense the situation is escalating
You are worried about how co-parenting will work


You are communicating with each other
You have both agreed to break up
The situation is civil or amicable
You would like to make progress and move on
You don’t mind communicating with your (ex) partner
You have a general sense of how things might be arranged
There are some areas of disagreement
You are coping with the situation


Communication is very hostile or non-existent
You are not or hardly speaking to each other
You prefer not to see or communicate with your (ex) partner
Or your (ex) partner does not want to communicate with you.
One or both of you has another partner
You are living apartYou sense your (ex) partner is untrustworthy or dishonest
You are not coping well with the current situation
The situation is adversely impacting other areas of your life
You feel confused, anxious and/or worried
Your children are distressed about the situation
You are fighting over some or all of the issues without any hope for a solution
You cannot see an end to the situation
You are racking up legal fees or the legal process is stuck
Your (ex)partner is refusing to complete the financial disclosures
You are worried about abuse or violence for you or your children
You would like an end to the situation as it is


You don’t both agree that the marriage is over
One of you wants to try to make the relationship work
One of you wants to end it
You are communicating with each other on some level
You feel stuck and want some progress


The relationship is in crisis
Ending it could bring closure to the current suffering
You’re not 100% sure what you want or what will be best
You can see some benefits in keeping the relationship together
You have many reservations about your (ex) partner’s ability to change


You are on a low or no income
You believe you could be eligible for public funding (Legal Aid)
Your issues are specific to finance and/or child contact